Patrick and Erin met in 1999 and the topic of adoption came up on our second date. Erin told Patrick about the genetic condition that makes it impossible for her to give birth to a healthy baby, and he immediately responded that he wanted to adopt — he didn’t even hesitate. We were married in 2001, and eight years later we adopted our son in 2009. It has always been our intention to adopt two children — a son and a daughter — and we are so excited to grow our fun-loving, multi-racial family again.
Erin is an author and Patrick is the president of a software company that develops apps for the iPad, iPhone, and the web. We both work from home, at desks only a few feet away from each other. We coordinate our schedules so we equally share the responsibilities of raising children together.
We love exploring new places, trying new foods, and seeing the world. Usually six or seven times a year we go on vacation to spend time with family or play on a beach or visit a foreign country. Patrick has a sister who lives in Europe and Asia, and we travel to see her, her husband, and their two young children at least every other year. We look forward to giving our children the opportunity to discover the globe.
When we’re not traveling, we love to spend time with friends and family. We have an active life. Patrick is part of a music group in which he plays guitar and mandolin. Erin sings at our church and is an avid runner and kayaker. Our son loves to pound on the drums, play superheroes, go to the aquarium, and ride his bike. We have our friends and their children over to dinner regularly. Erin uses these dinners to try out new recipes from her ever-increasing collection of cookbooks. We also enjoy going to museums, seeing movies, talking about current events, and going on adventures.
Our home sits on half an acre of land in a forest and is in a safe and diverse neighborhood in a suburb of Washington, D.C. There is a paved trail that leads from the back of our house to a park, swimming pool, tennis courts, basketball courts, and playground equipment. On our block, there are a couple families with young children, and our children get together regularly to ride bikes and play games. We live in an area where our multi-racial family looks similar to many other families, and our friends represent a spectrum of races, ethnicities, and cultures.
Patrick and Erin are best friends and the love of each other’s lives. Like newlyweds, we still spontaneously dance whenever the mood strikes. We believe in and support each other at every turn. We also adore our son, who is kind and loves to laugh and will make an amazing older brother. But, our family is not yet complete. As our son said recently at breakfast, “I’d be lucky to have a little sister!” And we couldn’t agree with him more.
Patrick and Erin wish to maintain a relationship with the birth mother after the baby is born. We are happy to send pictures and letters to let her know what the child is doing at each age. We are also willing to travel to make supervised visits every other year, as we do with our son’s birth mother. We are not interested in a closed adoption, though we understand and respect birth parents who make this decision, it’s just not the right option for our family. We want our children to always have some level of connection with their birth mothers.
Thank you for considering our family –
Erin, Patrick, and Future Big Brother
Contact us through our adoption attorneys, Michelle Hausmann and Amy Hickman: